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LEGENDS of Song & Dance- Benefit for COPE

Photo Credit: Douglas A. Kerr  

 

Please join us on April 9 at the Ruidoso Convention Center for the first annual COPE DANCING FOR THE CAUSE! This event promises to be a stellar evening of entertainment all around.

 

Local stars, including Ruidoso Police Chief Darren Hooker, Ruidoso Fire Chief Harlan Vincent, Councilman Rifle Salas, Judge Angie Schneider, Pastor Judy Shema and stay tuned for others!, will bravely take the floor with their respective partners to support COPE and  compete to win the coveted trophy.

 

In between the dancers, some of the best local entertainers will perform, including Brian Scott, Top Brass, Your Name Here percussion group, Dali Ballet Company and Susan Kolb.

Cope Dance

Everyone in attendance will be invited to dance a few dances during the evening (if you want to!) Doors will open at 6:30 pm. Our show will begin at 7:00 pm. Individual tickets are $25. Tickets are available at the COPE office, 258-4946, located at 1204 Mechem, Suite 12 in Ruidoso OR at the Ruidoso Chamber of Commerce office.

 

Organizations, groups or businesses may purchase a sponsorship for $250, which includes at table for 8 of your favorite guests, plus featured advertisement of your organization, group or business, throughout the evening.

 

Please come support COPE and enjoy a fun evening featuring the local talent of Lincoln County. All funds will support the programs COPE provides in Lincoln County.

 

 

Possible New Gun Law

 

 

COPE honors domestic violence survivors


Attendees at COPE's candle-light vigil Oct. 15 examine the food offerings. Approximately 100 were in attendance, including representatives of COPE and law enforcement agencies. (Photo: Haley Gray - Daily News)

Candlelight Vigil

 

“As darkness crept over Alameda Park Thursday evening, about 100 Alamogordoan’s gathered together, clutching battery-operated tea lights, to join in honoring victims of domestic violence in a candle-light vigil.

 

The event, sponsored by Alamogordo’s Center Of Protective Environment, was part of the organization’s programming in recognition of October being Domestic Violence Awareness Month. COPE is an organization whose mission it is to provide services to victims of domestic violence and other forms of abuse.


Representatives of COPE, the Alamogordo Police Department, New Mexico State Police and the Otero County Sherriff’s Office addressed the crowd at the Alameda Park gazebo. The highlight of the evening was a speech by domestic violence survivor Darlene, who spoke about her own journey. Read More.....

 

A Big Band and Bluegrass Christmas - Benefit for COPE

 

 

 

Domestic violence coalition honors advocates

The New Mexico Coalition Against Domestic Violence honored community leaders and businesses throughout the state at their annual awards ceremony Thursday afternoon at Alamogordo's Bethal Baptist Church.

 

It was part of the coalition's fourth annual Community Heroes awards presentation which is hosted during Domestic Violence Awareness Month in October.

 

The intent of Domestic Violence Awareness Month was to educate communities about domestic violence issues, bring about awareness of it and to end the violence against women and children.

 

The Community Heroes awards commemorate the actions of community leaders, businesses and organizations that have supported and advanced domestic violence advocacy in their communities and throughout the state. Domestic violence program representatives from around the state nominated local community members for their contributions and support to victims and their advocacy against domestic violence.

Honors Advocates

COPE Executive Director Kay Gomolak, left, Alamogordo's Mayor Susie Galea and Love Inc's Susan Payne listen to COPE Director Veronica Gutierrez speak during the New Mexico Coalition Against Domestic Violence's Community Heroes awards ceremony Thursday afternoon at Bethal Baptist Church. (Jacqueline Devine—Daily News )


New Mexico Coalition Against Domestic Violence spokeswoman Alisha Chavez said they host the event at different venues throughout the state each year.

 

"Last year we did it in Farmington and we invite all people to come out to this event," said Chavez. "I think it's important to recognize those volunteers, those that are supporting the service providers, encouraging and inspiring them to do the work."

 

Each year the Coalition cohosts the awards ceremony with one of their member programs. This years NMCADV cohosted the ceremony with Alamogordo's Center of Protective Environment (COPE).
COPE offers a full range of domestic violence services to victims of domestic violence in Otero and Lincoln counties.


Alamogordo's Executive Director of Love Inc. Susan Payne, Ruidoso's Sam Pirelli who owns Pirelli Lock shop, Albuquerque Alma Martinez who owns Nena's Food and Vanessa and Ben Harvey, and their children were all awarded NMCADV Community Heroes awards for their contributions and support to victims of domestic violence in their communities.


Mayor Susie Galea personally thanked them for their service and presented them with their awards.
"The kinds of services that you provide and offer strengthen our families and our communities," said Galea. "It makes way for our community's leaders now and in the future to have a common and shared posterity throughout all of our communities. You are the rock of our communities."


Local hero and Executive Director of Love Inc. Susan Payne said she was pleasantly surprised to find out she was going to receive the award because she expects nothing in return when helping people in need. Love Inc. is a charity for those in poverty in Otero County. They have helped provide finances and material goods to help them on their journey to safety.


"If we don't help them they will go back to their abuser," said Payne. "It's the last thing we want is for them to go back."


Kay Gomolak, Executive Director of COPE said often times it's a commitment based upon some personal knowledge or experience the victims had or maybe a friend who has experienced domestic violence.


"We are grateful that people are willing to make the commitment that they make to our organization," said Gomolak. "They're an example to the rest of us to do what we can to make sure that people understand domestic violence and know there are resources in the community to help them."

 

People interested in volunteering at COPE can visit the agency at their offices at 909 S. Florida Ave. or fill out an application online at http://copedv.org.

 

By Jacqueline Devine
jadevine@alamogordonews.com
@DearestDevine on Twitter
Posted:   10/30/2014 09:09:40 PM MDT

 

We must educate young athletes about domestic violence.

 

By Kay Gomolak

Guest columnist


Despite the fact that I hear about domestic violence every day, it was shocking to watch the video of Ray Rice abusing his fiance in that elevator. And still, I have heard a few people in our community say that it wasn’t that bad or that she provoked him. Many people did react strongly to the video. After people said someone should do something, the NFL officials reacted with statements about benching players or forcing them out of the NFL altogether.

Imagine yourself as the wife of an NFL football player faced with the choice between getting help for being abused or risking your family’s reputation and financial future.

I think a lot of people believe domestic violence occurs disproportionately among the poor, and if it happens to others who may be financially better off, they can just leave that abusive relationship. Well, it’s a lot more complicated than that. According to the news, Mrs. Rice has said she wished that video had never been released. Her future is surely not what she thought it would be.

Domestic violence does not usually manifest itself simply in a single act like the beating we saw Ray Rice’s fiance endure.

It is about the continued use of power and control over another person. It can be physical, emotional, financial and/or sexual.

Victims of domestic violence are threatened, coerced, intimidated, isolated and blamed by their abusers. Children are used as pawns.

It’s not easy to leave. Sometimes victims think it is safer to stay than to go. I think we must support them and give them information to help them make decisions about what is best. I think we must tell children and youth they are not to blame for the abuse and we must let them know it is possible to have safe and healthy relationships rather than abusive ones. I think we must hold abusers accountable and offer them information about how to change their abusive ways. I think they must suffer the consequences if they don’t make an effort to change.

If they asked me what they should do, I would tell them domestic violence prevention education should be part of every athletic program in every school ... and even the really good players are not exempt. I would tell them that if they have any inkling that there is abuse going on by a player to his/her partner, the abuser should be required to participate in domestic violence intervention counseling at a qualified facility … in addition to making sure the victim has access to safety planning, counseling and any assistance she/he might need. I would tell them that domestic violence is complicated and messy and there is no one answer to stop or prevent it. I would ask them to consider how each of their solutions might potentially affect a victim. It might be a long shot but you never know. The next NFL star or NBA star or star of any other sport might be growing up right here in Otero or Lincoln County. I think we owe it to that star and his/her teammates to give them the facts about domestic violence and power and control. It might end with the NFL, but it starts here. If you are a coach or the parent of an athlete, call COPE for information about our educational programs for children and youth that focus on building safe and healthy relationships as opposed to abusive ones.

Now I know what you’re thinking ... there’s not enough time in your busy practice schedule to fit in a presentation from COPE for the kids about domestic violence. Now that you know the dangers of concussions, you wouldn’t send them out on the field without adequate physical protection.

Now that you know the dangers of abuse, don’t send them out on the field without adequate knowledge about healthy relationships.

Kay Gomolak is executive director of C.O.P.E. in Alamogordo.

 

 

COPE applauds officials for holding man accountable.

 

Alamogordo News

Posted:   09/17/2014 11:24:56 PM MDT

 

Friday's edition of the Alamogordo Daily News reported on the sentencing of a man who violated a protective order (commonly called a restraining order) 17 times.

 

According to the paper, the man pled no contest to violating the protective order and was sentenced to six years in prison followed by five years of probation. I applaud all officials involved in this case for holding this man accountable for his actions. Your readers should know how unusual this sentencing is.

 

In my fifteen years working at Alamogorodo's Center Of Protective Environment, I have rarely heard of anyone receiving such a strong sentence. In fact, victims of domestic violence in Otero and Lincoln counties often express frustration to us that orders of protection are violated by their offenders and they are not enforced.

 

When a victim of domestic violence fears for her or his safety, she or he may petition for an order of protection in district court. The protection order hearing is a civil matter where the victim may ask the court for certain remedies, for example, to have the offender stay a certain distance away from the victim, not contact the victim by phone, arrange for child custody and support on a temporary basis.

 

C.O.P.E. has victim advocates and an attorney available to help victims of domestic violence through the process of seeking and obtaining an order of protection. Completing the paperwork to request an order of protection can be a daunting task. Victims are asked to describe the abuse, and writing out their story all by themselves can bring back vivid, scary memories of the abuse. Our victim advocates and attorney can provide support and help them to consider the facts to include in the petition. Some victims are so numbed to the abuse that they don't even think some of the violence is important to relate in the petition.

 

We have been told by victims that offenders do many things to maintain control over them even after an order of protection is granted by the court. They have told us that their offenders have withheld their personal documents such as birth certificates, social security cards and immigration papers, making it difficult for them to obtain housing, get work or travel outside the area.

 

Victims have told us about threats and intimidation from the offender that do not stop even though they have a protective order that specifically prohibits contact by the offender to the victim.

 

Children are sometimes not returned after visitation, in blatant violation of the protective order and our system is slow to help get those children back.

 

And people ask us regularly why a victim would stay in a violent relationship. Offenders often show disregard for protection orders. They think they are above the law and that no one will really hold them accountable for continuing to control, intimidate and abuse their victims.

 

Thank you, thank you, thank you to everyone involved in bringing this man to justice. Keep up the good work! Let victims know they can count on our community to keep them and their children safe.

 

Kay Gomolak is Executive Director of C.O.P.E. in Alamogordo.

 

 

COPE Gospel Singing & Silent Auction Event Photos

 

Photos from Sunday's singin'. It was a fun afternoon! Thanks to all!

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COPE Gospel Singing & Silent Auction

June 29, 2014 - 3 PM
First Christian Church Ruidoso
1211 Hull Road

 

 

All Ruidoso churches and singers are invited to participate in the COPE Gospel Singing.  All musicians, quartets, trios, duos, soloists and choirs are invited to share their talents at the COPE Gospel Singing scheduled for June 29, 2014 at First Christian Church on Hull Road.  Those interested in participating should contact Pat Robinson at probinson880@bajabb.com or 505-269-7861.

 

Pat Robinson is currently the music director at First Christian Church Ruidoso and the ENMU Community Choir Director.  He has a BA in Music Education and a master’s degree in Applied Voice.  He was a high school music teacher for many years and has led church choirs for 48 years.  He has performed for both professional and regional companies in 34 broadway shows as a leading man and music director.  COPE is grateful to have him as a member of the Lincoln County Advisory Committee as well the leader for the first COPE Gospel Singing.

 

 

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ENMU Community Choir

 

Celebrate Courage: A Unique LIVE Production to benefit COPE

COPE’s annual concert, entitled Celebrate Courage, will be presented at the Flickinger Center for Performing Arts in Alamogordo, on Saturday, March 15 at 7:30 p.m. This dynamic event features all local talent from curtain to curtain and it will empower and move viewers and performers alike. This “musical
with a mission” tells an important story through song and dance by artists you know and love.

Celebrating Human Strength

Celebrate Courage is produced and directed by local treasures Teresa Ham and Connie Breding, both active and respected members of the performing arts community. With talented performers and excellent production staff, this program is sure to be a memorable experience promising one standing ovation after another. And the “feel good” won’t end with the final curtain. All profits from this performance will benefit COPE—the Center of Protective Environment. Breakaway from your typical Saturday night and be inspired while supporting an important cause in your community!

About COPE

Center of Protective Environment, Inc. (COPE) is the non-profit domestic violence agency for Otero and Lincoln Counties. COPE operates counseling and crisis-intervention offices in Alamogordo and in Ruidoso and a shelter for domestic-violence victims in Alamogordo. COPE offers a 24/7 domestic violence hot-line (437-2673 or 1-866-350-2673), a domestic-violence shelter, counseling, legal services, victim advocacy, community education, and household items for victims. For more information visit the COPE web site, copedv.org, find us on Facebook, or call the Alamogordo office at (575) 434-3622.

 

 

Febuary 23 2013.  COPE – Center of Protective Environment – Board of Directors for 2013.

Cope Board of Directors

 

COPE officers and directors for 2013 are, standing left to right: Ray Lara, Sarah Eldridge (Secretary), Bob Reno, Debra Teachman, Allen Stenger (President), Megan Wade (Vice-President), and Jim Forney; seated, Dee Swope, Kay Gomolak (Executive Director), Sheila Harrison (Treasurer), and Melissa Esquero. Not pictured: Hayley Dunn.

 

 

(photo by Barbara Reay)

 

 

COPE Golf Skills Challenge 2012

Carl Clark is the winner of COPE's 2012 Golf Skills Challenge, held July 28 at Desert Lakes Golf Course in Alamogordo. COPE raised about $5,000 from the event. Many thanks to Jason Baldwin for organizing the event and to Desert Lakes Golf Course for hosting it. Watch for this event next year in the summer; we plan to run it in the afternoon this time to catch the golfers who play a full round in the morning.

 
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COPE and SANE get a much needed update by the Mudslingers
 

 

The Sexual Assault Nurse Examiner Clinic in Alamogordo was extensively remodeled this year by the Mudslingers, the Holloman Big Give team who also installed bollards at the COPE shelter and did a lot of work patching the COPE shelter's roof last year. The clinic provides sexual assault exams at no cost to the victim.

 

Visit the SANE website: http://www.oterocountysane.org/

Watch the video of the BigGive Mudslingers at work!

 

Center of Protective Environment request funding from Ruidoso Downs

 

by Jim Kalvelage

 

(published June 15, 2012 in Ruidoso News on p. 9A; copyright (c) 2012 MediaNews Group)

 

After hearing recent requests for funding from the Boys and Girls Club of Sierra Blanca and the Rox Boxing Club, Ruidoso Downs is being asked to financially help the Center of Protective Environment.

 

"We're here tonight to take this opportunity to introduce you to what COPE is about and what it does and also to make you aware of some funding needs we have and hope that you'll take some time to consider supporting COPE here in Lincoln County," Mike Mauldin, the chair of COPE's advisory committee, told city councilors.

 

COPE assists those impacted by domestic violence and other forms of abuse in Lincoln and Otero counties.

 

"Before the Nest was established, one of things that we say that was really needed was a batterer intervention program," said Mark OvRick, a psychotherapist who works with COPE. "And we felt like the shelter (the Nest's safe house for victims of domestic abuse in Ruidoso Downs) was very important but the other side of the coin we needed to provide was not only treatment but an alternative to jail for men who batter. And the reason for that is because if all we do is stick people in jail, they're not able to earn incomes and families that are already stressed are stressed even more. And it cost money, let's face it, to put somebody in jail. It's expensive, over $30,000 a year. So having this batterer intervention program is very important and we provide a lot of that service."

 

OvRick said domestic violence programs nationally are 95 percent focused on non-shelter needs.

 

"The things that we provide are advocacy, we provide counseling, we provide counseling for children, we provide legal assistance, we help people file paperwork, and of course we send a representative with them, an actual attorney, to help with things like getting protection orders."

 

Since a Ruidoso office was opened in 2005, through 2011, COPE has helped 1,146 domestic violence survivors.

 

"Eighty-one of them were children," OvRick said. "And 350 of them were domestic violence offenders. We answered 1,098 crisis calls and the annual average is 164 domestic violence survivors, 12 children, and 50 domestic violence offenders, for a total of 225 a year."

 

OvRick said about $165,000 are needed annually to provide the services. Two percent of that is for administration.

 

"The rest goes for service delivery and our people work really hard."

 

At 30 percent, the major funding source is the New Mexico Children, Youth and Families Department.

 

"We ended up with a budget deficit of $38,000," OvRick said. "We've always raised funds in Otero County. We've never done it in Lincoln County.

 

"This is the first year we've done it. We had a goal to raise $15,000 this year. We're right at $15,000 but we had some expenses out of that for fundraising. So the actual money that's going to end up in our program is about $12,000. So we still need more money."

 

 

 

Febuary 25 2012.  COPE – Center of Protective Environment – Board of Directors for 2012.

Cope Board of Directors

 

COPE officers and directors for 2012 are, left to right: Sheila Harrison (Secretary), Lisa Durrett House, Cathy Aguilar-Morgan (Treasurer), Allen Stenger (President), Melissa Esquero, James Forney, Sarah Eldridge (Vice-President), Kay Gomolak (Executive Director). Not
pictured: Hayley Dunn, Ray Lara, MaryTaken.

 

(photo by Sigrund Shoemaker)

 

Unique Breakaway concert to benefit COPE

COPE's Breakaway concert is a musical celebration of overcoming challenges and leaving harmful situations.

 

An original and utterly unique production is taking center stage at the Flickinger Center on March 24 at 7:30.  Produced by COPE, the domestic violence agency in Alamogordo, this evening of entertainment promises to wow its audiences through the power of popular song and dance and its extremely talented local performers. Even as you read this, volunteers from our community are fast at work: rehearsing their songs, building sets, and selling tickets for this fund-raising show, which will be a memorable highlight of the Winter Season at the Flick.

 

 

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1st Annual Jim Turner Memorial Golf Skills Challenge

COPE hosted the 1st Annual Jim Turner Memorial Golf Skills Challenge at the Desert Lakes Golf Course on 30 July 2011 in Alamogordo, NM  Our purpose was to raise awareness of domestic violence and raise money towards filling our funding gap.  We had 31 participants and hope for double that number next year!  We could not have conducted this event without the help of volunteers in the community.  Volunteers served as score keepers for the nine events beside helping to set up for and close down the event.  We had many great sponsors, making this event a success.  This was the first event of its kind held at Desert Lakes.  This was truly a golf skills challenge with events including longest drive, punch shot, iron accuracy, pitching, chipping, troubleshot (over a pond and through the willows!), and three putting events.

 

The event is named after one of our former board members, Jim Turner, who passed away in 2010.  He was a valued member of the COPE board for five years and a true community supporter.  Whether he was handing out COPE flashlights at the Candlelight Vigil at the AHS Homecoming game or helping with repairs at the shelter, he was there with a smile and kind word for all who crossed his path.   

 

Now you have a year to sharpen up your skills and get ready for next year's COPE Jim Turner Memorial Golf Skills Challenge!

 
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C.O.P.E. receives donation from the Give Back Foundation

Alamogordo Daily News
Daily News Report

Posted: 05/25/2011 02:02:42 PM MDT

 

It began with an "Oprah" show. On April 8, Sigrund Shoemaker, president of the board of directors of the Center of Protective Environment, watched an episode of the "Oprah" show, which featured GiveBack founder and CEO Stephen Paletta returning for a guest appearance. Paletta was the winner of "Oprah"'s Big Give in 2008, a TV reality show that challenged competitors to be the biggest giver.

 

Paletta returned to "Oprah" to kick off a new giving campaign, "100 Days of Giving."

 

Through July 16, GiveBack is offering even more incentive for individuals to start their own online foundation - a $1,000 daily prize to a foundation for a lucky member chosen at random.

 

After seeing the show on April 8, Shoemaker immediately set up her account on www.GiveBack.org, designating C.O.P.E. as her charity of choice.

 

Then the notification came. Tim Makenzie, operations director of GiveBack.org, informed Shoemaker that she and her foundation have been selected as a random winner of $1,000 for Day 25 of the 100 Days of Giving.

 

Since then, Shoemaker has used the Give Back website to make online purchases from several of the more than 400 business partners, each of which give back a percentage of the purchase for the chosen charity. The listed businesses donate a percentage of purchases to the fund account, which then go to a favorite nonprofit. Percentages range from 1 percent to 50 percent.

 

When GiveBack saysthat people can create their own foundation it means that they can open a donor advised fund account. A donor advised fund account is a charitable giving vehicle administered by a third party (the Give Back Foundation with Give Back LLC) and created for the purpose of managing charitable donations on behalf of an organization, family or individual. A donor advised fund account offers the opportunity to create an easy-to-establish, low-cost, flexible vehicle for charitable giving as an alternative to direct giving or creating a private foundation. Donors enjoy administrative convenience, cost savings and tax advantages by conducting their grant-making through the fund. A donor advised fund account is not a private foundation as that term is defined by the Internal Revenue Service code.

 

"There's power in numbers," Shoemaker said. "I simply spread the word by promoting C.O.P.E. and sharing stories. I even posted the information on C.O.P.E.'s Facebook page. Just imagine how much money could be raised for C.O.P.E. simply by making normal online purchases through GiveBack. It was easy and adds up quickly. Federal and state budget cuts have reduced C.O.P.E.'s funding by almost 30 percent this year. Somehow we must fill this funding gap or face reducing the services we provide to clients who often have no place else to turn for help from a violent domestic situation. No one should have to live or be threatened by a violent family member. Everyone deserves a safe place to turn to for help. In our community, that's C.O.P.E.," Shoemaker said.

 

 

 

 

 

New Report Indicates that Fifteen Percent of New Mexicans are Likely to Be Raped

 

New Mexico Department of Health

For immediate release:   April 8, 2011  
 

Contact:  Olivia Lara or Toby Rosenblatt

Office:  (505) 827-2619
Cell:  (505) 470-2290
Toby Rosenblatt’s Cell:  (505) 827-0017

 

    

(SANTA FE) – The New Mexico Department of Health reported today that 15 percent of
New Mexicans are likely be raped at some point in their lifetime. It was reported in the Sex Crime Trends in New Mexico during 2005 through 2009, that one in four women and one in 20 men are likely to be raped during their lifetime.  The data was provided by the Survey of Violence Victimization in New Mexico.

 

Public agencies and community organizations are joining together to raise awareness about the importance of preventing sexual violence in New Mexico. They are sponsoring a variety of activities throughout the state during Sexual Assault Awareness Month in April. The activities begin with a three-day conference, Advocacy in Action (AIA), April 6-8, in Albuquerque.

 

Governor Susana Martinez proclaimed April as Sexual Assault Awareness Month due to the seriousness of the problem, including both immediate victimization and long-term results.

 

“Bringing awareness is critical and essential to all New Mexicans and the Department of Health will continue to provide valuable information and educate the public to help prevent sexual violence in our state,” says Cabinet Secretary Catherine Torres, M.D.

 

The AIA Conference will feature nationally recognized speakers and will have workshops on sexual violence, domestic violence, childhood victimization, managing personal, family and public emergencies, workplace safety planning, enforcing protection orders, system accountability through court monitoring, and developing protocols to improve intervention response to child abuse and neglect cases in New Mexico.  More information on the conference is at http://www.kessjones.com/events/AIA/16Home.html.


Sexual assault awareness activities are being held in Albuquerque, Santa Fe, Las Cruces, Silver City, Taos, Farmington, and Portales/Clovis. There will be a District Attorneys’ Crime Victims’ Rights Annual Breakfast featuring Governor Susana Martinez in Clovis, elementary to high school sexual violence prevention presentations throughout NM, community gatherings, fundraisers, and trainings for law enforcement.

 

New Mexico sexual assault statistics:

  • The number of reported criminal sexual penetration crimes has increased each year from 1,337 in 2006 to 1,408 in 2009.
  • The vast majority of rapes against both women and men remain unreported to police or sexual violence support organizations.  In 2009, only 1 in 9.5 adult rapes came to the attention of law enforcement.
  • Victims of sexual violence are overwhelmingly female (86 percent rape victims and 78 percent victims of non-penetration sex crimes).
  • Almost one-third (31%) of rape victims and 29 percent of victims of non-penetration sex crimes are victimized before age twelve. Another 30 percent of rape victims and 32 percent of victims of non-penetration crimes are victimized before age eighteen.
  • More than half (57%) of sexual assault victims were victims of a prior sexual assault.
  • Almost two-thirds (60%) of prior assault victims were victimized by age twelve and 85 percent of these were victims of on-going sexual abuse.
  • More than half of survivors and two-thirds of offenders had a history of domestic violence.
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    Reports on sexual assault and domestic violence in New Mexico can be found on the Office of Injury Prevention website:  http://www.health.state.nm.us/Injury/injury_reports.shtml and on the NM Coalition of Sexual Assault Programs website at: http://www.nmcsap.org/reports.html.

     

     

     

    Volunteering value found at C.O.P.E.

    Alamogordo Daily News
    By Elva K. Osterreich, Associate News Editor

    Posted: 03/18/2011 12:00:00 AM MDT

    Jane Harrison visited the Alamo Senior Center to see how she could contribute to the community.

    "I'm fortunate enough to be healthy and retired and don't feel like I should be here twiddling my thumbs," she said.

    She stopped by the Center of Protective Environment booth, and although she hadn't set out to volunteer, she realized the organization was badly in need of someone to help the volunteers.

    "After I stopped at the booth and realized they didn't even have someone to follow through with those interested in volunteering, I had to help," Harrison said. "It's nice to become part of the community."

    So Harrison took on the mantel of volunteer coordinator at C.O.P.E.

    As coordinator, Harrison makes sure volunteers get basic training, are cleared for placement in jobs, go through lists of jobs and special skills, then decides what the appropriate placement would be. She also accompanies them on their volunteer activity until they are comfortable with what they need to do.
    "I didn't even intend to work for C.O.P.E.," she said. "But I learned it is not just a shelter for victims of domestic violence. They do a lot more."

    Harrison said C.O.P.E. provides education about domestic violence to students in public schools, adults in various venues, and counseling to victims and perpetrators. C.O.P.E. also has a crisis line and provides advocacy for victims.

    C.O.P.E. is a nonprofit that was established in 1980 on a grant to address problems of family and relationship violence, Harrison said. The range of services has been expanding ever since.
    "You don't have to be a resident at the shelter to receive counseling," she said.

    There are a lot of donations that come in, Harrison said, but they are always in need of things at the shelter. There are lists of items needed and volunteer job availability online at www.copedv.org. People can apply online for volunteer positions.

    "What they don't have are enough hands to go around at the shelter," Harrison said. "And they don't have money for staff to do grounds work and paperwork, and they are low on clerical help."

    Harrison said it is not uncommon to have 30 children at the shelter at a time and volunteers who don't have much time can be a big help, too.

    "We have had, in the past, people who come in and read at the shelter," she said. "When counseling is provided, it would be nice to have someone to provide child care. It could be just an hour or two per week."

    Volunteers are also needed for special projects such as producing a newsletter, preparing purple ribbons in the fall for the football games, assembling gifts, and trimming trees and carrying the tree limbs away. Volunteers also transport people to places such as court hearings, haircuts, doctor's appointments and church activities.

    "It's something a few people can do a few times a year and that would be a tremendous help," she said. "Volunteers can go with the community educator in the schools as an assistant. For the younger children, they do puppet shows to help get the point across."

    Harrison said every job requires different qualifications. Every volunteer is trained in the job they select until they are completely comfortable with it. References are called and a local background check is performed.

    If a volunteer works in the shelter with clients and their personal files, a full background check is required. Volunteers must also sign confidentiality contracts.

    Usually C.O.P.E. will pay for background check processing and the volunteer pays for the fingerprinting.

    "All it takes is a desire to make a difference in the life of other people," she said. "We will work with potential volunteers to see what is the right job for them."

    Harrison said the people who stay at the shelter also contribute their time cooking and taking care of upkeep at the facility. If interested in volunteering at the shelter itself, Harrison said volunteers must realize the residents are coming from situations where self-esteem is not at its highest.

    "You work with people who help people become their best," she said "Every little thing you do is going to add up to a person being more successful in life."

    Those who seek help from the shelter are offered services and advised of their possible choices, but not told what to do, Harrison said. When people enter the shelter they are asked to sign up for duties and attend counseling.

    "They get a hand and information," she said. "They are not just sitting there all day long. They are attending school, working and taking care of life's business. We have to remember some of these people are working with problems that are probably overwhelming their lives at the time.

    "With volunteering, you meet other people with the same values that you have," Harrison said. "If you are new in town, it is an excellent way to become involved and find quality friends."

    For more information, visit the C.O.P.E. website at www.copedv.org or e-mail copevolunteer@yahoo.com. Information is also available at the C.O.P.E. office at 909 S. Florida Ave., or by calling 434-3622.


    Contact Elva K. sterreich at eosterreich@alamogordonews.com.
     

     

     

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